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Let’s face it, confidence matters at work.
In fact, it may have more of an impact on your success level in your career than anything else.
Think about it for a minute. You can be the most brilliant, capable person at your job. You can have important ideas and perspectives that could earn your company millions of dollars. But if you don’t have the confidence to put those ideas out there in a way that will influence others, then it’s meaningless.
I can’t tell you how many guys I’ve worked with are completely frustrated with their jobs because no one listens to them.
They have intelligent ideas and significant perspectives to share, but when it comes to meetings or talks with their supervisors, they freeze up. They don’t say anything, their mind goes blank, or they only share one tenth of what they can. Or they tentatively put forth their ideas in a way that causes others to think that they don’t know what their talking about.
In order to be successful at your job, in order to excel in your career and have more influence and income, you must develop your ability to speak clearly to any size group. You must master your public speaking confidence.
Here are some specific things you can start doing today to make that shift.
How To Increase Your Public Speaking Confidence At Work
1. Your Voice Matters
When you are in that meeting and you don’t say anything… why do you do that? Why do you hold yourself back? What do you tell yourself in order to keep quiet?
• It’s not the right time.
• What if I fumble over my words.
• What if someone shoots me down.
• Maybe my idea isn’t that good anyways.
• What if…
Trust me, I know them all. I spent a decade keeping myself quiet in all kinds of settings. And do you know what I discovered?
The most important underlying idea that is stopping your from speaking up is this:
What I have to say doesn’t matter. My opinions, perspectives, thoughts, and feelings, don’t matter here. I don’t matter.
And guess what?
Wow, thanks Aziz. How motivating!
What I’m saying is this:
As long as you don’t think that your voice matters, neither will anyone else.
People pick up on your body language, your voice tone, and the level of certainty and authority you convey when you talk. When you are full of self-doubt and don’t believe that what you say matters, others will subconsciously be more dismissive of you and your ideas.
What to do about this?
Start by reprogramming your mind.
You DO matter. Your ideas, perspectives, thoughts, and opinions do matter. Your voice matters. You have something significant to contribute to any group, even if you don’t know as much as someone else there. Your unique perspective is not only important, it is essential to the conversation at hand.
Don’t believe me?
Or do you want to believe me but you are filled with self-doubt?
You can create this reality for yourself. Start by stating out loud each day when you are alone: My voice matters. My thoughts and opinions matter. I matter.
Repeat this out loud, with force, conviction and certainty.
When I am working with a client, I will give them this for homework. I will tell them, “when you come back next week, I want you to tell me these phrases. I want you to practice them so much and repeat them with such certainty and authority, that when you tell them to me next week, I believe that you believe them.”
When they come back the next week, I pay attention to their body language, their eye contact, and their voice tone to determine if they did in fact practice the phrases. It’s obvious if they haven’t.
Start by saying these phrases out loud many times per day. Then start repeating them in your head while you are at work on your way to a meeting. Then say them in your own mind while you are sitting there in the meeting… and see what happens next.
2. Improve Your Self-Esteem
Do you think highly of yourself? If you are inhibiting yourself in groups, not speaking up at work, and not sharing your ideas boldly, then I don’t think you do.
“Now wait a minute,” clients will say to me. “I know I’m a good person, I know people like me and that I’m talented and all that. I don’t have low self-esteem.”
Sure, you’re not the poor wretched fellow living in his mom’s basement who hates himself every moment of the day. Your self-esteem isn’t that low.
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