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In this video, you will learn how to overcome fear and anxiety in 2018. I provide to you the exact three step formula you can take to conquer and overcome fear and anxiety in 2018.
How To Conquer Fear, Backed By Research
Fear is… really scary, actually.
Research shows being afraid you’re going to lose your job can be worse than actually losing your job:
“…perceived job insecurity ranks as one of the most important factors in employees’ well-being and can be even more harmful than actual job loss with subsequent unemployment.”
In a number of surveys, fear of speaking in public ranks higher than fear of death. Jerry Seinfeld interpreted this as meaning that at a funeral, more people would rather be in the casket than giving the eulogy.
ere’s the funny thing: we know a lot about how fear works and a pretty simple way to beat it. In fact, we’ve known the answer for thousands of years.
So how do you conquer fear?
It’s All About Control
When we feel in control, we’re not afraid. When we have a level of comfort with something, it’s not scary.
Anything that gives you a feeling of control over your situation helps you keep your cool.
Without a feeling of control, when stress gets high we literally can’t think straight.
Via Your Brain at Work: Strategies for Overcoming Distraction, Regaining Focus, and Working Smarter All Day Long:
Amy Arnsten studies the effects of limbic system arousal on prefrontal cortex functioning. She summarized the importance of a sense of control for the brain during an interview filmed at her lab at Yale. “The loss of prefrontal function only occurs when we feel out of control. It’s the prefrontal cortex itself that is determining if we are in control or not. Even if we have the illusion that we are in control, our cognitive functions are preserved.” This perception of being in control is a major driver of behavior.
his is why fear often seems so random and irrational. And why you’re often afraid of all the wrong things.
Worried about terrorism? Then you should be absolutely terrified of your couch, pal. Americans are as likely to be killed by their furniture as they are by terrorists:
According to the report, the number of U.S. citizens who died in terrorist attacks increased by two between 2010 and 2011; overall, a comparable number of Americans are crushed to death by their televisions or furniture each year.
This is why people lose their minds over Ebola but still won’t use a seatbelt.
Think about driving for a second. You’re piloting a 2000lb missile at 65 miles per hour. But that’s not scary. Why? You’re used to it. You feel in control.
Here’s how to conquer fear:
Spend time thinking about your fears. Envision them as vividly as possible.
Make it worse. Yup, take them to the extreme. It won’t kill you. Just sit there with them.
Gradually expose yourself to your fears. Don’t just imagine them. Slowly get closer and closer to experiencing the real thing.
Prepare. Use your visualizing to guide you on how to prep and make sure the worst never happens.
You don’t need to be fearless. (Parents take note: fearless kids are more likely to become criminals.)
But what you do need to do is laugh. Humor provides a powerful buffer against stress and fear.
Via Nerve: Poise Under Pressure, Serenity Under Stress, and the Brave New Science of Fear and Cool:
…joking actually reformats your perception of a stressor. “Humor is about playing with ideas and concepts,” said Martin, who teaches at the University of Western Ontario. “So whenever we see something as funny; we’re looking at it from a different perspective. When people are trapped in a stressful situation and feeling overwhelmed, they’re stuck in one way of thinking: This is terrible. I’ve got to get out of here. But if you can take a humorous perspective, then by definition you’re looking at it differently — you’re breaking out of that rigid mind-set.”
I’ve talked to Navy SEALs, Army Rangers and Special Forces. And they all said humor is key.
Face your fears. Prepare for them. And don’t forget to laugh. Fear is usually worse than what we’re afraid of.
As Bertolt Brecht said:
Do not fear death so much, but rather the inadequate life.